8 Ways to stay on the same team in Marriage

By MarshaShari

𝘔𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳, 𝘮𝘢𝘨𝘪𝘤 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘵𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘱𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 “𝘸𝘦’ 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘮. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭. 𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘮.

Believing the best about your spouse keeps your heart filled with joy! One of the key learning points in a relationship is discovering how to communicate so your partner can hear your heart not only words. Conflict is easier to solve when you start on the same team. There is nothing more frustrating for a woman than joining a man who has no idea where he’s going. A wife expects you to have a financial plan. She wants you to be a great leader and a great listener.

You pick a wife to join your family, or when you feel that she meets all four levels of attraction. The attraction is the starting point of the relationship. Attraction is an emotion that suggests that a person has the potential to start building with. Will she be a great mother and nurturer, as she will be a to joining with you while being proactive in raising your children. There are specific ways to stay in the same team in marriage.

Givers see marriage from a covenant perspective. A giver is someone who devotes himself completely. They give for the joy of delighting someone else with nothing in return. Starting on the same team in marriage is a good sign and guarantees successful relation-building; especially as it works as a cushion to the matrimonial relationships.  Of course, not all days will be loving and joyful.  There will be times when you look at your spouse and you feel like divorce is the only option. There are instances where you feel betrayed beyond recovery. You are not alone . Every marriage will go through a tough time also we must tolerate unnecessary interference from the in-laws.

Wife

The fact of the in-laws’ importance and their positive influence in our general life cannot be denied. Take from the sayings,” behind every successful man is a proud wife and a surprised mother-in-law”. It applies to both men and a woman in the same sense and it is not strange when they grow older, they will also be the same characters. Please keep in mind that all the in-laws are not all bad. A positive attitude towards your spouse’s family is the soil in which your healthy marriage will grow. There should be appropriate boundaries, never turn  a blind eye to any action of your family that disrespects your spouse. Always protect your marriage on this plea.

We all know that men and women are complements of each other and  both of them must know the possible expectations from each other. It is also said that spouses are two wheels of a vehicle that need to be compatible to run smoothly.

Before we discuss the smart ways to stay on the same team in marriage, it is a prerequisite to know “WHAT MEN NEED FROM WOMEN IN A RELATIONSHIP AND VICE VERSA”.

Emotional Understanding

The man would certainly prefer to win your heart to satisfy your emotions. Therefore, you must know what your male partner expects from you the most. This differs from a man to man as some of them can easily be attracted very quickly, while the others don’t. Some men are more reserved and passive in their feelings. Keep him realizing that he is the most valuable person in your life and you can hardly survive without having him. Observe the guy’s sentiments, if he desires to be in a relationship, he would ask you for your heart as well, in addition to showing you with his actions and more tangible stable ways.

Self-Respect

No doubt, you would enjoy teasing the opposite sex, but not all the time. Notice the mood of your partner and do whatever he likes. Give him respect instead of making him fun or irritating him. Try to understand his reactions when you respect him, and hope it will give you a return beyond your expectations. Your respect will avoid him from  being frustrated and other mind boggling things and he will fall in true love that will consequently turn into marriage. In a nutshell, stay positive in all matters as your negative attitude may have a very bad impact on your life-partner.

Admiration

Everyone is particular about his/ her ego, especially the men as they love to hear about their personality, character, image education, and profession, etc. Try to find out the opportunities to show appreciation for  him whether he deserves it or not, just make him realize that he is very special to you. Your acknowledgements about his dedication & contributions will  please him.  

Accepting the Man as your counterpart

It is natural when you accept & admit that your partner is the only man you can live with forever. Most men become men ages 35 -42. And if not, it will become a question mark on your survival. Most adult  grown-up men don’t change  but expect you to do whatever they want. Men need respect ! Men need your encouragement  and support. You should be your husband’s greatest fan, believing in him when nobody else does. Learn to speak well of your partner in public and in private. Conversely you will lose his  trust if you expose his weaknesses to his friends  and family. It is the need of the hour and the healthy relationship to let your partner feel like a hero.

Miscellaneous

• Besides the aforementioned points, a man needs certain other tangible and intangible things from a woman such as:
• Physical Relationship:  Nature has put a wonderful taste in the opposite sex whether it is the case of animals or human beings. Men love physical connection in their relationship which is essential for warming up their blood. Let him hold your hand to make him feel your physical presence. Moreover, hugging, kissing, chatting, touching your hair & even buttocks would be great.  Keep him engaged in other romantic acts through a physical relationship.

• Sex:  The guy will turn mad & crazy when you play a romance. Most men are more sexual than their wives. respond to your husband’s sexual needs. Please understand a man’s sexuality is linked to his self esteem.  Romance is another gadget to attract your man towards you. Study your husband . Marital sex is a holy and beautiful thing. You can easily boost his self esteem by him knowing that you desire him sexually.  Therefore, using romantic gestures to work accurately and establish the fact that you are very much passionate, natural, impulsive, and generous in the relationship.

• Security & Confidence: Like girls, guys also want security and confidence from their life-partner. Here I mean that the partner must be reliable, honest, well-committed, and trustworthy so that he  knows that you would not betray him.

• Maturity & Communication:  For a marriage or relation-building team, both the spouses must be of an adult age and mature habits. So, you must have the courage to talk, and face the consequences   like a brave woman instead of showing cowardice like a teenager.

Your man will expect you to deal with matters like a mature person tactfully. You should be emotionally mature enough to have a healthy relationship and to avoid conflict. Don’t forget to keep him in the loop, and always take care of his feelings, listen to him attentively and cooperate with him.

What Women Need From Men in Relationship

Like a man, a woman also needs certain things from her lifer partner to maintain a balanced and healthy relationship such as:

Love Feelings

A woman wants her man to extend her every comfort, but the love feeling is on the top. Indulging in sex frequently to make her feel happy & energetic, try to understand her feelings even if not stated, and responding to her mood or actions would state how caring you are!

Safe & Stable  Feelings:

Women want you to ensure their safety and healthy feelings. However, it is the topmost desire of a young woman to feel protected. Most women are wired to help. She wants you to take the lead. Leadership begins in the home. Be a great leader, be stable in your thinking and be a great listener.

Praise your partner

A woman wants you to see her, listen to her, and know the emotions closely. You should appreciate her to maintain healthy relationships. Nothing, but your emotional support can make her feel that you love her too much.  Ultimately cherish your wife. Place high value on her, hold her in high regard. Women thrive in an atmosphere of expressed affection.

Nurturing

It is the dire need of a woman to protect her feminine energy and it is only the man that can do it. Only an energetic man with having balanced masculine energy and a stern sex can meet the woman’s nurturing. Try to welcome her on any occasion she desires to have sex keeping in view her utmost need.  Remind her about her personality that you like the most. 

Let’s proceed further to know the 8 tips about Smart Way to stay on the same team in Marriage.  It is very important to keep favorable social terms with your in-laws, but how? You need a safe & smart play to win this battle. Here are 8 tips quite helpful to protect sabotaging/ damaging your marriage from in-laws: 

1)Loyalty

Loyalty & constancy is the prime factor which allows you to stay on the same team in marriage in the long run. It is, therefore, highly essential that immediately after you marry, your interests and loyalty must shift over your spouse without any prejudice.  Since you are going to form a new family,  it requires priority over the old one, say M.W. Doares( A marriage and family therapist M.W).

2)Upholding of Relationships with Parents

Parents are your natural guardians and it is very important not to ignore them at any cost. This tip is quite workable in protecting your marriage and team from meddling in-laws.  On the contrary, if you depend on your spouse only and don’t involve your parents personally, you will notice certain issues leading to severe consequences.   But at the same time, both of the spouses must make it clear to their respective parents that they have a certain degree of involvement to avoid disturbing your matrimonial relationships, spending holidays & vacations, interference, and unplanned visiting your home, etc. However, don’t refuse them straight away for which you should show diplomacy. 

3)Attitude of the Grandparents with their Grandchildren

It is also the reaction of natural love & affection of the grandparents they express for their grandchildren. However, there are certain cases where they don’t. Both the spouses must understand that such an act on the part of the parents reflects their shadows for which the couple cannot be blamed.

4)Prioritizing specific Things

Since protecting/ sabotaging your marriage should be your target, therefore, you must prioritize the things accordingly. Consider your spouse and your marriage and team above all so that you may stay on the same team in marriage. Similarly, you must mark certain boundaries with the consensus of your spouse about relationship building with in-laws i.e. who can come and under what circumstances. 

5)Plan spending your Holidays in the First Instant

It is human nature that when the couple goes out to a lonely place to spend holidays or other important occasions like X-Mass, their moods & minds get refreshed and they feel energetic. Therefore, you should plan a trip together with the object to change your life.

6)Act as a Team Member with an Open Mind

Although you cannot change the behavior of your family altogether, but make them realize that you are with them. Your clear and consistent response with the family will ensure your marriage. Instead of defending your family without any cogent reason, listen to your parents’ viewpoint without any prejudice. Think positive and do hope for the same.

7)Share the Right things of your Parents with Your Spouse

You should share all the positive and good things of your parents with your spouse and vice versa. Unnecessary information shall betray your wife’s confidence.  Play the role of a loyal & good Ambassador for both the parties to make the mission successful.

8)What to do, if the Tripartite (your spouse , your parents, and in-laws) Acrimony still exists

Doares stresses the need to learn as to how a happy family has been living. It would be in the best interest of the couple to stay on the same synergy to reap the advantage of marriage. However, if things are unfavorable like your parents or the spouse and even the in-laws are opposing this marriage vigorously, but you desire to marry, you should not surrender the object and keep trying. There  are going to be differences in your family background. Thus respect  your unique differences. Respect goes a long way in building strong healthy relationships with both families.

 It is concluded that to enjoy a healthy relationship and stay on the same team in a marriage it as advised that couples should respect each other, spend time together, be caring, emotionally supportive, and willing to produce children for enhancement of their family. 

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